Archive for the ‘Grief Books’ Category

“When does grief end?” The answer is out of print no more

Monday, February 6th, 2012

Over the years I have heard so many people ask, “When does this ever end?” Maybe you’re asking yourself that very question.

More often than not trying to answer this very important question leads to arguments over semantics with no clear answer emerging. I’ve had way too many of those conversations struggling to find the words to describe the resolution of grief.

It’s not about “getting over it.” It’s not just about moving on. It’s certainly not about forgetting. In the end most of the words fail miserably with none capturing the reality of continuing to live after loss and grief.

Over the years only one description has satisfied me…a single chapter in an out of print book which beautifully describes what grief looks like when it’s complete. I even quoted a small bit of it in How to Survive Your Grief.
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I have read this chapter to every group of hospice volunteers I’ve ever trained. I have read portions of it to grieving clients. I have read it so many times that my falling apart copy is held together by a rubber band.

I have recommended this chapter countless times. Unfortunately the recommendation has gone something like this…

“If you can find a copy of this out of print book, read the chapter on grief. It’s worth reading if you can find it, especially the part about when mourning is complete.”

Doesn’t sound like much of an endorsement does it? I wouldn’t go searching for an out of print book either especially for a single chapter.

So here’s the good news…

The Work of Mourning is now available in the Amazon Kindle Store for 99¢.
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I highly recommend it if you’ve ever asked yourself the question, “Will I ever get over this?”

Let me know what you think of it…here or write an Amazon review.

Best,

Susan FullerSusan L. Fuller

P.S. Don’t worry if you don’t have a Kindle. You can get a Kindle Reading App for any device of your choosing.


I hate grief memoirs!

Monday, December 6th, 2010

I really hate grief memoirs.

Why?

Just because you’ve experienced grief does not make you an expert on grief. It only makes you an expert on YOUR grief.

So why are so many people out there peddling products and services to help the grieving with no other credential than their own grief, and unhealed grief at that?

Though sharing the stories is an essential part of the grieving process, the purpose of telling those stories is for personal healing not for the enlightenment or healing of others.

Can those stories sometimes help others? Certainly. This is what happens in support groups all the time. The stories of unhealed grief are mutually shared among group members. It’s powerful stuff and the common threads emerge out of the awareness and respect that each person’s grief is unique.

Therein lies the difference. Stories shared mutually and reciprocally, heal. Personal stories presented as “the answer”, generally don’t.

So where does How to Survive Your Grief fit in? First it can never, ever replace a support group. I recommend support groups all the time, and consider them the single best thing anyone who is grieving can do for themselves.

The book is for people who can’t or won’t attend a support group, and as a supplement for people who do, but How to Survive Your Grief is definitely not about my personal losses because my losses aren’t relevant to your healing.

The stories I share in the book are the stories of the hundreds and hundreds of people I’ve worked with over the years. In aggregate, they tell a story of grief useful to all who are new, and maybe not so new, to grief.

Susan FullerSusan L. Fuller


P.S. Order How to Survive Your Grief.